The Pain of Broken Trust: When the Ones You Loved Hurt You Most

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Sometimes, people simply aren’t worthy of being part of your life. No matter how much time, effort—even your whole heart—you give them, they can still use you and toss you aside like you meant nothing.

The most painful part isn’t the time or energy wasted, but the trust you gave so freely. That trust—once broken—shatters something deep within you. We hang signs at our gates saying, “Beware of dogs,” but in truth, it’s not animals we should fear. It’s the people who deceive us, who build their lies on the foundation of our trust.

When you trust someone blindly, when you believe in them with everything you have, only to discover they’ve been lying all along—it turns every word they’ve ever said, and every word they might say in the future, into meaningless noise. Your world begins to crumble. The life you thought you were building disintegrates into pieces, leaving you broken and lost.

To keep trusting someone after all that—because you feel like there’s no future without them—is the darkest dream one can live. That emptiness, that hopelessness, that inability to even dream again, becomes a slow kind of death.

Have you ever felt this way? Have you lived this thought? Or are you afraid to even imagine it?

Come, let’s open our souls.


Written by Saku
#SoulNotesBySaku

14 responses to “The Pain of Broken Trust: When the Ones You Loved Hurt You Most”

  1. Mark Lanesbury avatar

    As hard as it seems it has a great purpose. It is showing us our pain, our fear. Unconditional love touches us to see it, but our fear makes us cross our arms over, wall our hearts up so that the pain no longer hurts. But in each relationship they keep touching that place, poking the one thing that hurts more than anything else.

    This conditional world shows us so many things…and especially their opposites. We can never appreciate happiness unless we have sadness to…or how else would we measure it. All those emotions speak to us, especially our ‘conditional’ love, that of our love that has been broken and in its place an expectation, one that asks others not to hurt us. But they know no better, and, I’ll guarantee that you ‘unintentionally’ poke theirs. We attract the very thing that asks us to look deeper and see. And in the beginning we refuse to, it is hurtful, why would we.

    It begins unintentionally from those we love and look up to in our childhood, we wish to be loved by them so we will do anything for that love. Even if it is a painful thing. We are very young and emotionally immature because we have hardly experienced this world yet. And that emotional wisdom takes a lifetime to understand. We just want them to hold us and love us.

    But if one or both of those parents treat us in such a way of that pain, it leaves its imprint in us, and we spend the rest of our lives carrying that rejection in whatever form it takes. And we can’t actually blame them for their actions, simply because we are still carrying our fears, and when you were born they were still carrying theirs. They, and you, cannot but help pass on what you are. You, and they, have not resolved those fears.

    But, I say again, it has a great purpose. When you go back into that childhood and ask yourself ‘why’ did you feel as you did, and you finally ‘see’ its truth…you will be glad of each and every step you have ever taken. All of this journey shows you an appreciation for all you do. Any work, especially the emotional kind, is truly appreciated when you go through something, even if it can be so painful.

    And in understanding it, it drops away the ‘on guard’ you have held forever. Look at everything in your life you didn’t understand, be it when you first drove a car. You thought you would crash, miss a light, get booked and worried it to death. But 12 months later your throwing donuts in the gravel and barely give it a thought. Experience is the key to all understanding. You can read about something but it truly isn’t understood until you experience it.

    And ‘conditional’ love is the type built by an unknown…your fear. And the more you experience it, the more you understand, even if this one takes a long time. But, when something takes a lot of hard work, it is truly appreciated so much more because of that.

    Trust me, on that day you ‘see and understand’ your fear, a weight like no other is dropped, tears fall gladly, and a change like no other takes over. You start to see things that have always been there but closed to you because of that ‘on guard’ we all do. You see butterflies, and stop to watch. You just stop on a path in the woods, close your eyes and just listen and smell its beauty. Where before you couldn’t, didn’t have the time, too focused on your destination…instead of being the destination.

    It is a long journey kind lady, but that beautiful persistent spirit within you, that is you, wishes to understand unconditional love. And each and every step that you give it, is building that understanding within you. When you finally ‘see’…there are no words…it is beyond that. Dare to take a deep breath, another step, and know this has a purpose, a very profound one ❤️🙏

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    1. soulnotesbysaku avatar

      Thank you for sharing such deep wisdom, Mark —it truly touched my heart and gave me much to reflect on.

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      1. Mark Lanesbury avatar

        It is a big journey Saku, and at times you reach a place where you feel you just can’t go on. But it is in those moments where we ask ourselves that age old question…why? Why is the universe picking on me, trashing every step I take.
        But it is there that you are close to seeing something, being shown ‘your’ answer, even if being distracted with its pain. It wants you to see that pain because it is there that your answer lays.
        The first 50 yrs we just point our finger at everything else, but slowly in all those experiences an opening will show, a light will show through that emotional wall we build around our hearts, and we will dare to look. At that moment is the beginning of another life, at that moment you tell the universe you are daring to look, and it will dare to show you.
        Good luck kind lady, just remember to sometimes stop on your path and listen…feel…and dare to breathe for just you. Meditation is great for it. When I reached that emotional madness after a huge breakup, a friend said lets meditate. I laughed and said…how do I stop my mind doing 500 miles an hour. And she said to me…see, your even afraid of that. And I was.
        I had to get used to what I wanted, not what I thought I had no control over…because I did feel I had no control. Just slow me down and rebuild from a new base. And I did keep meeting my fear after it because I still did not understand. But…I was in a much better place to deal with those things and dared to look inside for that answer.
        Again, and it may be a long way off yet, but when you truly see it…understand your fear…you will be glad of every single step you have ever taken…good and bad. There is purpose in it all 🤗❤️🙏

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      2. soulnotesbysaku avatar

        Your words made me pause and truly reflect, Mark.

        It’s powerful how pain can be the very place our answers are hidden – something I’ve felt but never had the words for.

        Thank you for reminding me that even in the darkest moments, there’s a light waiting to break through. Your journey gives me the courage to trust my own.

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      3. Mark Lanesbury avatar

        Always trust yourself kind lady, even in the bad things. It is taking you exactly where you need to go. Take care, and may there be many butterflies on your trails 🤗❤️🙏

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      4. soulnotesbysaku avatar

        Thank you for your kind words!

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  2. soulnotesbysaku avatar

    Thank you for sharing such deep wisdom Mark—it truly touched my heart and gave me much to reflect on.

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  3. mistermaxxx08 avatar

    Very straight to the point and the core. Going by the pulse and direction in the space and time which just seems right and makes good sense. Who can’t relate to that?
    Respect and appreciate you

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    1. soulnotesbysaku avatar

      Your words truly resonate. Letting go of those who dim our light makes space for those who truly see us. Wishing you healing, strength, and brighter days ahead.

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      1. mistermaxxx08 avatar

        Thank you for your raw and candid vision and tone. You reflect truly strongly

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  4. pk 🌎 avatar

    Nice post 💯

    Thanks for sharing 🙏🧡

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    1. soulnotesbysaku avatar

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

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  5. AbuBanat avatar

    I know how it feels when you are betrayed by someone you trust, love and shared part of you with.

    There’s purpose for everyone you meet. Some people come into your life to test you, some to teach you, some to use you, and some to bring the best out of you.

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    1. soulnotesbysaku avatar

      Thank you for your words. It’s so true. Being hurt by someone you trusted changes you deeply. As painful as it is, every experience teaches us something and helps us grow stronger.

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